Things that make you go hmmm...
I'm gonna tell you like my elders told me, "mind your business." Also, "pray and ask God to bless your hands because its obvious your hands are idle, looking for trouble or trying to create problems."
We all seen the pictures of Beyonce with the x-ray vision eye, trying to decode or figure out what's on Jay Z's phone. It's a natural reaction, we all been there and done that. And Bey looks like she's studying something or reciting some numbers in her head. (Lol) But anyhow.
Why would our elders think its a violation of privacy to look at man's phone or a woman's phone? And keep in mind, the marriages of our parents and elders lasted. Divorce was unheard of back then, if there was problems on the home front, it would be rectified, instead of getting lawyers and judges involved. Also, the women back then knew how to pick and choose their battles. And this is where this whole looking at the phone thing comes in.
Is it really worth the aggravation, the stress and drama looking at a man's phone brings? You migh look at his phone and see a text message that says: "Thanks for dinner, really appreciated it." from Sabrina. Now you all upset, calling your girls, making threats on leaving him, crying and getting all worked up. Only to find out, Sabrina is a business partner who finalized a deal during a business dinner, the company your man works for sponsored.
If you analyze this incident, our elders are right. Looking at a man's phone is creating problems that were not even there. And if you are busy and being constructive with your time, you will not have time to be looking at a man's phone. It's one thing if a man gives you reasons or your suspicious because of his odd behavior, even then you should know yourself well enough to trust your intuition. Your intuition will tell you more than the phone can.
So, I agree with the elders, find something to do and choose happiness. It's not worth the drama, pain, headaches, stress and all the negativity looking at a man's phone might bring. And it is a privacy thing too, respect and honor it ladies. Life is really simple, so why do things to complicate it? If anything, go take pole dancing class and step your game up behind the doors and in between the sheets. Learn how to do Kegel exercises and strengthen your vagina muscles. Ladies, you do know your vagina is a muscle? When you flex it, you get that grip and give him a nice hug. For real, although that's a whole article on its own but you get the point.
I am my sister's keeper.
Happiness is a beautiful perfume to wear and spread the joy of its scent.